Can you forget your first love

Even though you no longer have him, or the fact that he is not as good as you think, you still have many people who care about and love you sincerely. Do things that require focus and energy, so you won't be distracted and have no time to think about your first love. No one else can save yourself but you. Don't take too much time thinking about your first love. It's better if you care about yourself.

Do exercise, travel, and anything make you happy. Is there any better way to heal heartbreak than meeting friends? Spend a night hanging out with them or anytime you'd like to. To be able to forget your first love, you have to care about yourself first. Make your body healthier by sleeping early and waking up on time. It affects your mood much and makes you happier. One of the best ways to move on is seeking support from your loved ones. When things feel too hard to be handled alone, go to someone to support you.

They will help you to move on fast. After your first love went wrong, don't be in a rush to find someone new. Give yourself time to break from the relationship, and use the period to mend your heart. I got in touch with her recently for the first time in many years, because even though we can only ever be friends, I really want her in my life in some small way.

That first love is so powerful, so all-encompassing, the memories are so happy and so sad at the same time, but I know my love for her will never really leave me, and I envy the people who married their first loves. I really love my wife btw, it's just a different love in a different time. Peace and love to the people struggling with the same thing on here. The feeling of regret and what could of been is one of the most painful emotions in your life. How can I just be grateful for giving me his heart 20 years ago and not suffer with the loss?

Any thoughts?? Trey, RTG i hate that i miss you so much at random times , i hate that i had to make myself hate you so bad in order to forget you , on Aug 15 was the day my whole world went downhill and every since then i couldn't allow myself to Love another guy like i loved you , still to this day i remember your favorite color green i remember your birthday March 2, i remember your moms name, hell i remember everything about you..

We talked about spending our life together and we knew we were going to do just that. By 10th grade i decided to stop going so i just got my G. I use to cry atleast 4 times a day during our breakup cause i knew i had lost you for good , even after you still tried to love me i still didn't tell you what was wrong..

How could i love another guy when you were the one i supposed to been loving all my life.. But i know you don't love her , you never did.. I love you forever 9. Its been 22 years the last time I talked and saw you after I broke up with you over a letter finding out you had someone already.

I'm married and stable with 2 lovely and gorgeous kids which are my breath and life. Bur all these years you've been in my thought and still wondering if I gave US a chance when I saw you in year Went back home recently, and honestly every time I go visit; YOU are the first in my mind - hoping to see you or just bump to you.

I know you are happily married and I'm happy for you I'm praying that someday I could get over this feelings and move on. I remember vividly how we first met. It was second quarter of junior year. We met online but we went to the same school he was just a grade lower than me. I remember talking all night long to the time we first hung out. Laying on the grass looking at the sky, and then our first kiss happened. We spent a year together, just like the article mentioned, I got to experience what love felt like without having any responsibilities to deal with.

I thought everything was great until we broke up. The hardest part about this was that he was already talking to someone else and seeing them. I cried for days that felt like an eternity. But that all changed after a while. A man that I see marrying in the future. But I always have my first love in my mind. I thought I was going nuts wondering if I was crazy for even having a single thought. But first loves are hard to forget and I get that now.. I've come to believe thoughts about my first love come about when current relationships are going through hard times.

Bringing us back to a time when love was care free, free from responsibilities and in the purest form. These dreams were unknowingly effecting my relationship and I hope anyone in my situation will find the courage to go out and seek that closure if possible. Whatever you do don't let it eat away at you, speak to someone about it, don't overthink and most importantly know that we cannot ever forget our past, we just have to leave it behind.

Thanks for the interesting article. There is something haunting about the idea of a lost love; a relationship that never quite ran its natural course and could be reignited someday. Perhaps it's not surprising that one in five people get back with an old flame. Now we want to bring romantic soulmates together after years apart. If you are single, and 18 or over, and would be keen to reunite with a lost love, get in touch via longlostloves walltowall. I was 19 and he was my first love and have never forgot him.

I regret ending the relationship because he was leaving for the military. Looking back on what we shared was so special to me. He was a great guy and I only wish my fears did not take over and cause me to end the relationship.

Almost 30 years later, the memories are still embedded in my heart along with what could have been if I was strong enough to not give up. We are both married with adult children, so the past is just that. I met my first love, a firey, freckle faced red head in the second half of my sophomore year of high school.

We started dating the following summer and through the rest of high school. Her name is Dulcey and she was as unique as her name. Unfortunately, I spoiled the relationship when I became possessive and controlling. She called it quits a couple months after graduation. As devastating as it was, I deserved it. That was thirty-three years ago.

I took the lessons I learned in that relationship and didn't make the same mistakes with future lovers, but I never forget Dulcey. I've been with the same woman now for thirty years and we're married twenty-four, but I catch myself thinking about my first love several times a week, even now.

I didn't understand why until I read this article. I thought for sure that I was just mental and that this wasn't normal.

I'm happy in my marriage and I don't wish to reunite with my first love for anything except maybe to reminisce. I still remember the very first time I saw her. I remember trying to impress her by taking her for a ride in my because I had just gotten my driver's license.

I can remember our first date and our first kiss which was intense and that she initiated. I remember the movies we saw and the music we enjoyed and the places we went. I vividly remember the first time we almost had sex her mom came home early and I remember the first time we did have sex. We were each other's first. Sometimes I wish I could go back and do it all over knowing what I know now, but then I wouldn't have the family I have and the life I have now.

I did get to see and talk to her in which was nice. I apologized for how I treated her and she said all is forgiven. Ironically, she's married to a very jealous, possessive and controlling man, according to her description of him. She has three daughters with him.

She also has a son with the man who replaced me. There was another marriage that ended somewhere in between. When we parted again from that meeting, there was no contact, not even a handshake.

I was certain that just getting to apologise to her would give me the closure I so wanted and put her as a distant memory, but she's still living rent free in my mind. You are not alone. Anyone who have truly loved has been there. For me it has been 13 good years. Like you i use to dream about him. I have asked a friend in the same circle what they think of me asking him on lunch for closure. They think it might not be a good idea I have been scared of failing in love.

I am currently trusting God to heal me and restore me full for the amzing guy i will spend the rest of my life with. I do not know him yet but I know that he deserve the best and that includes the me who could love him wholeheartedly. It has been 8 years without trying. As i needed to first firmly believe that my past experience has greater purpose for my future.

Now, I do trust and believe that God's plan is sincerely to give me hope and a good future and i am standing on this promise as I await on him for a good relationship -I can not wait to fall in love again! I know that God knows our hearts and as his children if we trust him as a father he will ensure that we enjoy goodness too.

I advise that you surrender to God and instead ask him to heal you. I pray that you do not miss the good future he has in store for you and that your next relationship brings you all the joy and love you deserve. All the best! London35 you wont be seen as a creep if you had a relationship. If neither of you are married then dont let anything stop you.

You have nothing to lose. Life is short. She will still feel loved even if it doesn't work out. Let us know how it goes. Lesliewins thank you for you advice, We still live in the same area we have always been in so I hope we do bump into each other one day. You have such an amazing story to tell and it was such a beautiful letter.

I would never think that a love from 20 years ago would effect me at this stage but here I am. I believe it may have a lot to do with maturing,if we were both at this level of maturity early on things could have worked out just fine - that could go for a lot of past relationships, but this one is just stuck in my heart. I have been praying that we will cross paths soon, but if we don't I will pray for the strength to ask if she will meet me for closure.

As we have mutual friends, id not like to be seen as a creep lol. London 32 You should go and find her and get closure while she is still alive even if she doesn't love you. Real love is from God and even if you are not supposed to be together you can still tell her how much she meant to you. Love is not a bad thing and God wants your heart to heal. If you scroll down to 8 months ago in the comments you will see a letter I wrote to my first love.

I have never had such vivid dreams and the feelings of love and comfort are so intense and pure. These dreams have constantly on and off but when they start it happens literally every night. I wake up thinking if she dreams about me too, what could have been or what could be. How can I ask for closure after 20 years lol. It drives me crazy, but now I am getting old and I can only look back and try to face the fact he wanted someone else and not me I met this girl we used to go everywhere until i saw her and a other guy my heart shattered i still remember her I listen to country to remember her i cry sometimes.

I was at a basket ball tournament in glen allen alaska and i met this amazing girl her smile the way she was so proper funny i fell in love with her instantley we were inseprable that weekend. I don't know will i ever get detached from the feeling of loving him or not But i don't know also I want to get to get detached also It's been 2.

I always wanted and imagined my life with him But I can't be with him.. It seems at nighttime before going to bed I too think of my ex even though I have a guy lying next to me. Little does he know I think of you and you are in my heart always.

Can you forget me? Can I forget you? Maybe we can never achieve that and there will always be that feeling of undone between us. There is no solution and I only wish you the best. I think of us. How happy we were. The deviation you put me through. I will never in my life forget you or be mad Bc you gave me something that I search for in everyone I meet. Nor am I in love w you. I love you mason. I wish I can remember the first time I layed eyes on her sophomore year of high school.

Her name was Laura. Our first date we watched Friday the 13th Part 3 her choice. A girl after my own heart. Finally after a few dates we were officially a couple. We dated for a year. It was the best year of my existence. I can recall each memory crystal clear. Then out of the blue, she dumped me. She did it over the phone and I remember dropping to the floor like someone knocked the wind out of me.

We tried a few times over the next few years to get back together with no prevail. We dated for a whole springtime. It was wonderful, innocent. Then your ex came back from school and you picked him over me.

You thought I was the "love them and leave them type, but I wasn't. Truth be told, I never had a girlfriend before you. The breakup came from out of the blue and it hurt. That summer was hell. Then we ran into each other when the new school year started. You came up to U Mass. You wanted to get back together, said you had made a mistake.

There were two things that held me back. Since you had broken up with me, I met another girl. She was kind, loving and true to this day. Second, I couldn't risk getting hurt by you again. A chance on you dumping me a second time would have completely killed me. There are times I do forget about you, but like a ghost your memory comes back.

We have both moved on now for many years but I still think of what could have been if you had accepted my ring so many years ago at Salisbury. It's been 47 years since her mother invoked her will and effectively stopped our relationship.

We're each married to others, have grandkids. The comfort takeaway from the article is that I'm unconvinced she thinks about me as much as I do her. My First love, My first heartache : I know I haven't cried it all, I wanted to shout it loud to express what I feel right now One day I'll forget about you and just be genuinely happy for you I Love You Goodbye Some days I hate him for the pain I go through and yes 12 years later it still hurts.

Other days I just miss him. Miss how I felt. How carefree we were. Its been over 7 years since we first laid eyes on eachother. I know we've been in and out of other relationships over the past few years, but the only girl that wont seem to leave my mind is you.

I often find myself in deep thought of your green eyes, your long dark hair and your beautiful smile, its just mesmerising. I remember running into you on the beach years ago, i stood in silence in the huge crowd of people just taken away by memories and the overwhelming feeling of love.

We're both in other relationships now, but i hope that someday we can live our fantasy like we once dreamed. I wish the clock would spin backwards to a time before I said my vows, to a lonely place in my life where my heart was open and yearning to be with you again.

I was so battered by the ex that came after you and I was abused emotionally into believing that man was my destiny and that the life I had at the time would be the only thing to keep me afloat in society. I did not. Instead I only drifted furhter in a different direction. I am now at the point of being married to a caring, loving and sympathetic man who adores me and we have 2 wonderful little kids who I would die to ever lose.

He is so caring and complete opposite of the abuser I ditched in I would not trade the family unit for anything on Earth and sadly, not even for you. But the love I have for you aches in my heart every day and a huge chunk of me feels incomplete without your embrace.

I crave everything about you so many days of the month. I envision the past so often and get so lost in old photos, journals describing our encounters, adventures and explorations together, our old chat convos, our hand written notes, the emails. It floods my mind and chases away the stresses of the present and I get so lost in the thought of us together again.

I was with you 16 years ago adn that moment of time is becoming more dismal, more distant. I never want to lose your connection. I will carry these feelings with me to my grave but I have a hope that before then we will reunite Don't ever forget about me either. My first love was 30 years ago even though I'm married I can't stop thinking about her. I was young she was young but we got separated I left because my dad was transferred.

We communicated on Facebook and it ended. I was drunk and said something to hurt her feelings. I wish I never said that. Anyway she deactivated her account. But she did tell me I will always be her first love. I can't get her out of my mind.

Its been 24 years, im married to a wonderful woman now, but i still miss you, i still regret that night i was a fool. This would be the first and last time i'll speak of you, but know that in the past ten years you never left my thoughts. Like a beautiful song you played in my heart, but i'll never get to sing of you. I remember you,as clear as the day you first stole my heart, the day you changed my life forever. You are a bittersweet memory that i get to relive over and over.

Sometimes i wonder if you ever think of me,if you ever regretted breaking my heart. We were young then, and yes years have passed. Lovers came and as much as i tried to give them the love they so deserved,i end up giving them a broken heart for you occupied the rest.

But please know that, of all these things i've been through, i will never regret you coming in my life, for you are my first love and you will forever be a part of who i am now And i thank you for that.

Our love knows no bounds and you and I are perfectly entwined through him. I live knowing that you are happy and successful and that we will be with each other one day but for know I wait for you my dear.

At 15 I found my true love. Your dad made you break it off because he wanted you to go to college and find a woman that was better than me from a high society family with money.

I remember how you cried when you had to tell me and I heard you tell your dad "why" and he said just do it! I tried to console you because I didn't want you to hurt and tell you it was ok but it wasn't.

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Is the power of money greater than human emotions? Golu Sundal Vs. But that isn't the only reason why it's so hard to get your first love out of your head. According to experts, your first love actually impacts your brain. If the reason your first love still holds a special place in your heart, you can thank your brain for that. According to Dr. Robin Buckley , cognitive behavioral coach for couples, love is addicting. Robin Buckley , cognitive behavioral coach for couples, tells Bustle.

These "feel good" chemicals can cause you to feel euphoria and intense pleasurable feelings, especially when they're combined with physical touch. According to Buckley, neurotransmitter release is even more heightened when sex is involved.